I’m a woman in my mid-50s and I want to start dating again.  I think I’d prefer starting online, but I get nervous about what to write about myself.  What should really be included in an online dating profile about me?


Signed – What to Write




Dear What to Write –



I love this question!  Mostly because I’ve rewritten my online profile about 100 times (a slight exaggeration, but still … a lot!!).  When I first started an online dating profile, I read some of what men had written when talking about their wants in a woman.  I figured that would give me something to base my profile on.  However, I soon realized I was focusing too much on what they wanted instead of who I was.  I was pretending to be someone I truly wasn’t.

My recent profiles, however, have been very straightforward.  Here are a few excerpts to give you an idea:

“… I am a woman of integrity …” [this seems to be one of those traits that are highly valued but rarely seen in so many men and women today, so if it fits you, share it!]

“… I color my hair and wear fake fingernails, but the rest is absolutely real …” [might as well be completely upfront – at our age, no one should care, but you’d be amazed at how often guys feel you’ve ‘lied’ to them for some reason, so put it out there!}

“… I will never be a skinny woman, but I do eat healthier now than I ever have and get more exercise…”  [this lets the guy know that if he’s looking for a trophy girl, I’m never going to be her; plus, if this IS what he’s looking for, he’s too shallow for me!}


In addition, I do add fun things including hobbies, interests such as camping, going for walks and/or long drives … you get the idea.

Most importantly, you should be 100% honest with describing who you are, as well as what you are looking for in a match.  PLEASE don’t join the ranks of those woman (and men) who ‘pad their resume.’  It is disrespectful not only to yourself, but to potential matches.

Ms. Shrefler’s opinions do not reflect the opinions of this publication, or any organizations or agencies referenced within her comments.


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